I'm a fan of YouTube. My number of subscriptions is growing every week, one might call me addicted.
Anyhow, I just watched a video of Carrie Hope Fletcher (Itswaypastmybedtime) about kissing and how the right kiss is worth the wait. She asked all the older (same age or up) hopefulls (her subscribers) to react. So I tried. I love to share my thoughts on everything. But as always, I couldn't just keep it short. So I decided to write a blog about it instead!
Carrie, you probably won't read this, I am going to put the link in the comments anyways and if you do read this - Hi, you're fucking awesome.
Here goes -
Kissing, or that perfect kiss. Is it worth the wait? I actually never had the perfect kiss. I never kissed someone and lost myself in the action of doing that. I never had the courage to go up to a guy I really fancied - or the kiss of the guy that I thought I fancied didn't have the outcome that I expected it to have. I did however had some fun experiences. They weren't the best, they weren't mind blowing, but they were very enjoyable at times.
I think that there is no shame in a bad kiss. It's something we are very likely to want to explore as we grow up and as it is with many things, practice makes perfect. But there is more to the perfect kiss than the action itself. Actually it's not about the kiss at all, it's about the excitement of fancying someone and them wanting to be as close to you as you want to be to them. A perfect first kiss is very hard to come by, you will kiss in a way you think is nice. Maybe you like a lot of tongue, maybe you like there to be no tongue at all, you don't know what the other person favors so you'll just be two people locking lips trying to find a routine that works for the both of you. Now picture that without any feelings involved.. yeah.
If you really want a good kiss, go for the feeling not for the action. The action in itself is rather weird if you think about it, it's the butterflies in your stomach that make it exciting and worth the wait!
I'd be lying if I said I don't regret any of my kisses, I could've done without some of them. Nevertheless, the experiences were mostly fun and I learned a lot about myself in the process. Now I won't go around and tell anyone that they should kiss the first random person they meet - I always thought about myself first and tried to be as respectful to myself as possible. I had trouble with saying no sometimes because I didn't want the guy to feel weird or embarrassed, those are the times that I should've respected my instinct and said 'No'.
But the other kisses that were just 'eh' were ones that made me realize what I look for in a kiss. Were they good? Not necessarily. Does that mean that I should have waited for the right guy? Not necessarily.
What is kissing really, it's something we do to figure out whether we really like the other person or not.
So as long as you don't just kiss for the experience of kissing I think you're ok with a bad kiss or two. We shouldn't be to hard on ourselfs to wait for the perfect one, it puts a whole lot of pressure on a very small thing.
Remember to enjoy and keep your own well being in mind - who knows, it might be the guy (or girl) you least expect it from.
Love,
Anouk
Ahhh, l'amour ♥
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